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Comment on Weekend Fun by Jenny Greenleaf

Jenny Greenleaf — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 15:47:27 +0000

I want a “day of fun by myself” sometime soon, too! I love going on Artist Dates, and haven’t been on one in ages . . . must fix that. Is it just me, or does it seem more acceptable or appropriate for everyone else in our lives to take this time and not us??

Comment on Some Gut-Wrenching, Soul-Spilling Truth by do good

do good — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 13:09:22 +0000

The “good salary, good benefits” traps so many people into jobs that they don’t like and you can see it suck the life out of them. Keep your eyes open — wide, wide open — for something that better suits you. Life really is too short to do something that doesn’t make you feel good most days.

Comment on Some Gut-Wrenching, Soul-Spilling Truth by Frank

Frank — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 19:54:13 +0000

Life’s too short to put up with alterable stress. I hope the next fork in your road works out better for you.

Comment on Some Gut-Wrenching, Soul-Spilling Truth by tjwriter

tjwriter — Sat, 18 Oct 2008 23:02:45 +0000

A good job does make a difference. I miss that. Even at my temp job, my boss at least made the effort to try and that’s all that mattered.

I hope your medication stuff gets worked out. I saw on Twitter where you were talking about it.

I’ve been researching some work at home jobs, and the husband just laughed at me about it, but I’m serious. My mom watches my daughter and will watch the new baby when she arrives, so I could still send them there on a modified schedule so I can work. It’s really good to have that opportunity, and I am smart enough to appreciate it.

Comment on Some Gut-Wrenching, Soul-Spilling Truth by Arachne Jericho

Arachne Jericho — Sat, 18 Oct 2008 18:11:07 +0000

Ah man. That sucks so much. I too have been the victim of sucky jobs, but at least where I worked I could move to a different team. Jobs are really important to one’s life—a bad one can totally screw everything over, especially if you have a family. I hope you get out of there soon and find a new and much, much better job.

I once also had the Job That Doesn’t Let You Leave. Plus the oncall was heavy duty; I’d get paged several times every night during my week, thus I got very little sleep and was still expected to steam ahead 10 hours a day on project work. That so didn’t work out.

Then I moved to a team with easy hours and no paging to speak of, and got a manager who… well… a) had no idea what he was doing, b) was passive aggressive, c) could not handle disputes between members of his team. I never knew that one bad boss, even in an easy position could completely ruin my joy in life. Be careful; a bad boss cannot save a good job. You can only hope he gets fired/moved.

(It’s telling that in the first team, I wanted to stay with the company and move somewhere else. In the second team, I wanted to quit altogether and take my chances on the job market. Fortunately I’m too damn stubborn to die and managed to force my way into a third team. And I was blocked by my manager. That was not fun.)

Nowadays I work in a team with rewarding work, a manager (and his manager, and the director) who all have clues and are great to work with. The hours are bearable and oncall only comes once every two months and then it’s only during the day.

What a difference it made in my life.

Of course, nowadays I have other things to worry about (medication) but at least my job isn’t one of them.

Many good wishes to you and hopes for you from my corner.